Find out about the power of a mother’s love
It is soon Mothers’s Day in the UK. Children around the country, no matter what age will be acknowledging this day, and celebrating through giving gifts and spending time with their mums. In British culture the role of the mother is celebrated once a year. In the Torah, the role of the mother is celebrated daily. Honouring your father and mother is one of the Ten Commandments.
Are you a mum? It doesn’t matter if you have one child or ten, (yes I have some incredible friends who have ten plus children…) here are some insights into your unbelievable power. As a mother, you possess the incredible power to influence your children. You are the primary role model for your children. They will follow your actions whether you want them to or not. Your daily unconditional love for your children shapes their lives, whether they are aware of it or not. It’s your daily simple actions that shape your children’s future.
The belief that you have in your children has the power to shape their destiny. According to a study conducted by Robert Plomin, of King’s College, London they haven’t found genes that contribute towards IQ. It’s mainly the home environment, and the nurturing that your child receives from you that is the main predictor of their success in their lives.
When you give your love to your child unconditionally, you are setting the foundation for your child’s future successful long-term lifelong relationships. The emotional intimacy that you provide for your child is the foundation for their life. This is your power, just by doing what you are doing already, with more intention.
Your children must never feel that they need to “earn” your love. If they do, then this will leave a void in their heart for their entire lives that will be impossible to ever fill. If your child feels that they don’t deserve your love, then they will look for it in other ways, until they come to peace with their past.
The power of your seemingly small daily actions (read: the daily grind,) has the power to move worlds. Laura Ingalls Wilder, author of “The Little House on the Prairie” said, “Just as a little thread of gold, running through a fabric, brightens the whole garment, so women’s work at home, while only the doing of little things, is just like the golden gleam of sunlight that runs through and brightens the whole fabric of civilization.”
As a mother your day is full of countless seemingly small mundane actions.
You are a housekeeper and a home maker. Some of your daily actions are part of “housekeeping” such as cleaning the floors, laundry, washing the toilets to name a few. One way that you “make” your home is through cooking and nourishing your family. The smell of cooking, no matter how simple the meal, has the power to create calm and security in your home, among your children. The feeling of coming home to the aroma of baking has the ability to calm your children, and make them feel secure in your love of them. Anyone can do the household chores, not everyone bothers to create a home. This is your power
When you carry out your daily homemaking tasks with intention, you are cultivating emotionally resilient children.
In the modern-day women are encouraged to work and form careers that fulfil them. Let’s go back to basics: The most fulfilling career you can ever have is being a mother. Yes, there is a place for work outside the home, whether for financial reasons or creative fulfilment. That is fine, however your primary fulfillment as a woman will come from raising your children and creating honest and moral members of society. It’s about forming long-term relationships.
Do you have a child with ADHD?
Are you currently going through the horrendously long and traumatic process of getting your child assessed and diagnosed?
Has your ADHD child been suspended again from school due to their behaviour?
Are you at your wits end with your ADHD child? Let’s be honest, deep down are you super angry at your ADHD child for getting you in this mess? Do you lie awake at night worrying about your ADHD child, and you have no idea how to help them? Do you crave family harmony, but your ADHD child is slowly tearing you to pieces?
Is your ADHD child putting a strain on your relationship with your partner? Are you too overwhelmed to deal with your household chores that seem to pile up and up (together with the dishes and laundry) to the sky?
So many people run from one therapist/doctor to the next, spending so much time and resources, only to find themselves back to “Square One”
I fell prey to that trap…
The most important lesson that I have learned with my child who has ADHD is this:
I can send them to a thousand therapists, hoping that this time they will be able to “fix” them, but it will be of no use.
The only person who can “fix” my ADHD child is, well, ME!
As the mother, I have the subtle yet profound power to influence my child, even when all hope is lost.
To access your innate power you need to look after yourself first
As a mum, since you are doing numerous actions to give to your family, you first MUST do whatever you can to look after yourself, and give to yourself what you need, even seemingly small actions, they must be done on a daily basis:
- Have a long, hot bath,
- Put on your favourite music and dance around your kitchen with your children
- Go for a walk with by yourself and simply be in nature
- Have a coffee with a friend.
What else can you think of?
If you have a child with ADHD, please understand that parenting your child will be a much harder task, you may feel that you are being tested to the limits of your endurance. You will need to invest far more effort in parenting this child. However the rewards will be far greater.
Make sure to invest in your marriage. Spend time with your husband. Set a date night, (it doesn’t have to be a big investment. It can be a home games night, with popcorn) This ADHD child will test your limits. You and your husband need to “have one voice” when dealing with your ADHD child. Work on this no matter what. This ADHD child can make or break your marriage.
You have the power, this is your innate gift as a mother.
I will show you how you can easily and quickly help your child reach their version of success.
Are you struggling with your ADHD, or living with a loved one who has ADHD? You don’t need to suffer alone anymore. Studies have found that ADHD coaching really works. As the mother, you are the best person to create long-term success for your ADHD child. Are you tapping in to you innate power?
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