I’ll tell you what my greatest achievement is this week:
Not that I have finished the final draft of my second book, “Own Your ADHD – Discover your True Potential,”
Not that the laundry was all put away last week, ready for the new week’s cycle;
Not that I cooked nutritious meals for the family; and stayed patient when some children ate and some complained…
All that is great, but my biggest achievement is:
Mending four garments for my children
A button came off two garments, the fur needed to be sewed back on my daughter’s coat, and a hole needed fixing.
I absolutely HATE sewing with a passion, too detailed and fiddly. I feel sick and green and horribly anxious just thinking about it. So I DON’T! I delegate the alterations to a wonderful lady who comes to my house every 3 months or so, and does the lot.
And I have zero guilt about doing so. I am actually pleased that I delegate this task. I have more emotional space to do the tasks that I am good at and I enjoy. I don’t try to tackle every single task in my life, especially the ones that I HATE!
She wasn’t coming for a while, so I forced myself to get those tasks done.
It has taken many many years to banish that inner critic, that hidden enemy that chips away at my inner peace and productivity. I do not need to enjoy doing every task out there. I don’t need to be top level at every task that I need to do.
This is how I managed to get my tasks done
There are those times in the day that I call, “Nothing times” when I can’t get any proper work done, because there are too many people around me, or too much going on. During those “Nothing times” you can actually get a lot done. You can get a lot of “mindless” tasks done, those tasks that don’t need a lot of thinking input.
If you are upstairs with the kids, you can put away laundry; if you are downstairs in the kitchen, you can get a lot of mindless kitchen tasks completed.
The night before I intended to tackle the alterations, I took out the sewing box, and the clothes and threaded a needle.
So when the children came home from school, when they were settled, I started tackling the sewing.
I cheered myself on as I progressed, I DID NOT focus on how much I had left to do, or how sick I felt, but on what I had achieved, and how wonderful I would soon feel. I SPOKE LOUD to myself encouraging myself to continue, even if that looked a bit odd. My family is used to me speaking loud to myself.
I repeated positive affirmations to motivate me to keep on moving forward.
I did not allow myself to get distracted by anything. Any requests from family members just had to wait. I told everyone that I just had to finish this task, and I would be available. Some younger family members didn’t like it, I just continued till the bittersweet end.
In 10 minutes, all done!
How do you get this level of success in your life?
The various separate tools that I mentioned above took many years of patient perseverance to develop. If you want to master a challenge pick something small and stick to it!!! Its the consistency that will drive you forward.
Remember, little by little you can upgrade your life.